Time and Care for Your One Precious Life

Most women in midlife were raised to care for everyone around them but themselves.. We believe that it’s our duty to always take care of everything and for everyone at all times. Thus, making ourselves a priority many times doesn’t even occur or it is a last thought.

Growing up, many of us are raised to think that as women, we are responsible to put the well-being of others before our own. Many women I have spoken to believe it is selfish or self-absorbed to take time for self-care.

As women, we are capable of a lot of things. We are strong, brave, and born fighters. But we can only do so much. Our capabilities rely greatly on our physiological and emotional health and the care for our health. And if we do not see the importance of putting ourselves first, the consequences on our health can be severe.

There are many factors that some may say are hindering them to fully take the time to care for themselves. Lack of time, fear of being judged as selfish, lack of...

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Navigating Emotional Intelligence and Feelings

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) could be something new to many as we are not effectively taught how to deal with our emotions when we were young. 

This is a very important factor in our lives because we deal with different emotions and feelings everyday. These emotions are present in our relationships, career, hobbies, and in many other avenues of our life.

How does having emotional intelligence let you enjoy your life? 

If learn how to process our feelings, we can move through pain and other emotions that create suffering as well as deepen our capacity to experience more of the feelings we enjoy. When we repress, deny, or numb our feelings it limits our ability to feel more of the emotions that we love.

Feelings and emotions are not only psychologically felt but they can trigger a lot of things that can be physically present in our body. People deal with emotions in a variety of ways.  Everything from thinking about other issues, avoidance, denial, using numbing vices...

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The Major Benefits of Meditation


Meditation is one of the key tools that I have used both personally and professionally as a psychotherapist.

I know..many say that they can't meditate..that it is too hard, too boring, or they don't understand why it is so beneficial for both psychological and physical health. I read an article recently about a study that showed that midlife adults who meditated regularly had the brain comparable to a 25 year old. That is significant.

In my experience I have used mediation to work with depression, anxiety, panic attacks, emotional eating issues, addiction, couples counseling and communication.

I understand personally that meditation in the beginning can be challenging. Some traditions call the beginning "monkey mind."  But there are a variety of mediations. I use creative meditations and mindfulness, moving meditations, as well as meditations that are designed for this century and all that we grapple with. 

Mediation has been scientifically proven to extend your life span...

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The Importance of Self-Awareness, Women's Mindfulness and Heart Meditation


My podcast in Oxygen for Women (link below) addressed the importance of having self-awareness as the first step to all personal growth and healing. Many people try for quick fixes but as a person who has worked with hundreds of women, this first and most crucial step is the beginning of true healing and more fulfillment of life. This video gives an intro in my mindfulness as well as a meditation to get in touch with you in a deeper way. http://traffic.libsyn.com/oxygenforwomen/Ep3_Oxygen_for_Women.mp3

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Irritation, Hot Flash, and Mindfulness


I've been a mindfulness practitioner and therapist for 30 years.. I wanted to share a moment tonight when I really needed to practice and how I did it..

We all get irritated, we all having feelings of things driving us a bit crazy. But there are ways to process through it..I was having a range of it..but luckily I know how to get through it, without numbing or stuffing it!

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"Doing It Scared" 2 Tips for Fear, Panic, or Anxiety that You Have Never Heard


Doing it Scared adds Quality and Quantity to Your Life.  

(From a Facebook Live to my Group)

We can get used to living in a fixed routine or on auto-pilot. But according to many studies, doing something that causes a bit of fear or makes you scared in a good exciting way, can add years to your life as well as making your life healthier, happier, and more fulfilling. Not trying things because you are afraid will keep you in a rut and can make like one dimensional and can contribute to depression..

Doing it Scared can contribute to positive neuroplasticity. This is the brain's ability to change in a good way. As we grow older, doing things that create brain health is crucial. Creating new healthy neural pathways helps old harmful patterns fade away.

Try something new.. If you would like more information..Tune into my Podcast "Oxygen for Women" to learn how to take the first steps in "Doing it Scared" or Join my Group Oxygen for Women in Facebook to get support....

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Perfectionism- I Challenge you to do Something Messy, try and make mistakes..


We are raised to think we are graded from A to F. Unfortunately, we take this out into our lives outside of school and it can create fear about trying things because we want it perfect..tune in here..Learn to do it messy..

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You are Not Alone..Let Other's Lift You and You can Uplift Others. It Makes all the Difference


One of the main problems that I see with women..new moms, empty-nesters, peri-menopause, menopause, parenting etc., is that we feel like we should do it all and by ourself. We don't need to suffer in silence and alone. By reaching out and sharing your challenges, you can actually help other's feel better that they have the same problem and lift each other up. 

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You are a Divine Spark and Full of Potential

You are a Divine Spark.  Yeah, I know you may have heard something like this before and are may be tuning it out. All that stuff about realizing your potential, thinking out of the box, and finding your bliss can sound like the Charlie Brown teacher say wah wah wah wah in the midst of the craziness of life.  The amount of life coaches and cheerleaders trying to wake everyone up is like Starbucks in Seattle. We are everywhere.  So why listen to this?

While there are many people who are alive and living more and more of their potential, a large portion are not.  I see all around me how we block, numb, anesthetize, compartmentalize, reject, tune out, stuff, swallow, distract, judge, compare, psychologize, sedate, and work ourselves to the point we can’t really see, hear, taste, smell, sense, experience, or express who we really are. Or we think we can enjoy life when we retire or on the weekends. Scary.  I heard a quote from a Carlos Castaneda book...

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All of You is Miraculous


I am a lifelong advocate for people, a deep felt soul for our humanity. I have worked with many women over the years and listened closely to them and other women in our culture. I haven’t met a woman yet that has not come out unscathed in some way about their body, including myself. So.. this is from my contemplation this morning.

To Every woman who has been looked at with disdain, judged for your weight, color of skin, eye color, hair texture or style, curve of your hips, the size of your butt, the length of your body, the shape of your thighs, the wrinkles in your face, the unachievable standard society believes you should look like, the graying of your hair, your age, the dark circles under your eyes, the crookedness of your smile, the shape of your eyebrows, the thinning of your lips,  the tone of your skin, whether you are a 1 to 10 rating, the shift of your neck with age, the thickness of your calves, the size and shape of your breasts, the thickening of your...

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