Your feelings are screaming at you!

One of the main things I see in our culture is that a lot of what we learned about how to find more peace or happiness is actually making us more unhappy and the opposite of peace. As you may have seen in my previous emails, EQ is the education we needed the most and didn’t get. So I am here to help.

One starting point is that our culture teaches us to just focus on IQ intelligence. This is a disaster. I know, you might almost gag if you are reading my emails as I keep emphasizing this. But it is sooooo important and is one of the reasons we can end up both physically and psychologically challenged (to put it lightly).

Over 70% of men and women in this country are obese, we have an opiate epidemic, addiction epidemic, screen addiction, busy-sickness and more… Why? One of the primary reasons is that we don’t know how to deal with our feelings around life’s challenges. So, we end up coping in ways that can make things worse.

One tip is to begin to see that feelings are communicating something important to us. It’s like when your car is signaling that you are out of gas. If you ignore the gaslight you will run out of gas.

But we think ignoring, avoiding, compartmentalizing, numbing, somehow will make the feelings go away. Well, they don’t. I wish they would. But feelings get stuffed in the body and then we have to figure out ways to cope.

Many of those ways are hurting us or getting stacked up and ready to blow like a volcano on yourself, someone else, or another situation. Can you see all the rage that is happening right now? Part of that is unresolved and unhealed feelings.

It’s not your fault. Our planet doesn’t teach us how to deal with it. But you can learn. The most important step is awareness of what is happening to you.

One way of getting in touch with your feelings is what I call vomit journaling (sorry, but it’s the best description I have). Take a crappy notepad, computer, or art journal and let yourself rip. Don’t worry about grammar, spelling, or punctuation. LET IT RIP.

It’s important you know what is going on with you. My generation had JAWS come out. Whenever I have gotten into deep water and I can’t see underneath, it freaks me OUT. I want to know what is underneath me.

It’s the same with our emotions. If we don’t know what is underneath... (cue JAWS music), then we don’t know what is really going on… and we think we do. But it comes out in craving Ben and Jerry, alcohol, or binge-watching coma.

You knowing about you can save your life and your ability to have truer happiness. Don’t wait until your feelings have to scream physically or emotionally.