A podcast with a different take on being a woman. Inner peace, purpose, creativity, relationships...and some sass and spice.. Let's move to the next level of your life.
The Oxygen for Women Podcast is hosted by Perry Janssen. A Psychotherapist, for 30 years, an expert in psychology, Embodied mindfulness & meditation for women, personal growth strategies and skills, creativity and humor. Mother, stepmother, artist, personal development coach, and writer these conversations are aimed at helping women navigate the ever changing terrain of life.
Perry talks about a coaching client who was having difficulty in her marriage, had codependency tendencies, and her husband was an alcoholic.
With guidance and using creative tools she was able to move through depression, codependency, relationship issues, and recover herself and purpose.
Using creative tools is one of the most powerful ways to create true shifts with people.Einstein said "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”So I use a variety of creative tools that help get people out of their habitual thinking and into something that will transform their issues at the core.This podcast is about one (of many) women I have coached into transformational weight loss. However, we did entered into the root cause.The techniques I used with her was writing, journal prompts, creative modalities, embodied mindfulness, which she turned into a blog ultimately to share hertransformational journey.She was someone who was raised to “be happy, nice, and a good girl.” But she didn’t know how to deal with the range of life’s challenges and feelings.Her journey was about reclaiming her SELF and life in a full way and ultimately coming home to herself.Weight loss, body issues are rarely about just food. 70% of women in this country are dealing with some form of this issue.I have found it to be more complex than food and so I have developed Creative tools to move beyond just thinking our way through, butto recover all of the parts of ourselves.
Many women I know are regularly telling me how tired they are. Most of them ask how they can get more
energy so they can do all they want to in their lives.
There are 4 factors covered in this podcast.
While they're are many factors that build energy, in this podcast I focus on how these 3 areas drain your energy. In order to build your energy, you also need to look at what my be draining you.
Meditation for everything especially anxiety, insomnia, and panic attacks.
Many people think there are only a few meditations, however, there are many and for different types of
challenges we experience in our lives.
Today this podcast focuses on a meditation that is a mix of mindfulness and meditation. It is especially helpful for
people who are struggling with insomnia, difficulties getting to sleep, anxiety and panic attacks.
One of the questions I get asked the most is why can’t I change a pattern.. eating, relationship issues, self-care etc.
Today we are talking about Changing Patterns that keep you stuck.
Change—as much as we want it, can be difficult.
Many people come in and say they want real change. Just like we see in New Years Resolutions every year but the rate that people keep those resolutions deteriorates rapidly less than 25%
When people are trying to loose weight they usually have a weight set-point that can be challenging to move.
Not unlike weight, we also have emotional set-points as well.
Our ability to have more joy, happiness, intimacy, love and more can all have a point that can be moved to higher levels.
While they're are many factors that build energy, in this podcast I focus on how these 4 areas drain your energy. In order to build your energy, you also need
to look at what my be draining you. No matter how much energy you try to build, if you have things that are constantly draining you, your energy won’t last.
Like a boat, no matter how hard you paddle, if you have holes in the boat it will not move forward.
A Key To Joy
One of my primary goals has been to find what brings people through trauma, depression, life transitions, empty-nesting, anxiety, quality and quantity of life and a variety of other life challenges etc.. I’m a research fanatic and am always researching things that will help my clients and students..One area that may be obvious but I find lacking in many women is the creative and remembering play.While many think as you mature, being creative and playing are for kids, it is actual crucial to the enjoyment of life.* It can help balance out the rough times.* It helps neuroplasticity in the brain* It usually is last on the list but should be a priority* It gives energy* It boosts the immune system* It decreases stress.Our psychology and physiology are enhanced and it adds to our joy and happiness.
Resilience and the Heart
While we have a physical heart, in my experience we also have a psychological heart.
How we treat this heart impacts our ability to be resilient.
Resilience is not about being tough. It is ultimately about how we get through challenges and what
our well-being is like on the other end of the challenge.
How we deal with feelings, how we treat ourselves, and Emotional Intelligence are 3 components that
determine healthy Resilience.
Tune in to learn more.
Getting through Conflict and Better Communication
Conflict is inevitable. And Communication is crucial. However, we are not taught in our education system to work with either.
Every relationship has conflict at some point or another and healthy communication can make or break the relationship.
Healthy communication has the potential to create true connection and a deeper emotional intimacy.
Check out the podcast to learn how to work with conflict and communication in a healthy way.
Today's episode is brought to you by my Tip Sheet, Ten Tips for a Better Sex Life in Midlife
Today we're talking about sex and libido and women. I cannot tell you how many women have come to me over 30 years and talked about libido and sex. Most of the time what I hear from women is that they are wondering if there is something wrong with them. They can go for years suffering in silence.
One of the things that is tough is that people are uncomfortable talking about sex. I've had so many couples come in who have been married 30 years and still find it very difficult to talk about sex.
Today Perry covers one aspect to help you with this important but often secret, hidden issue. While there are a variety of issues that can be part of libido, this is one that is rarely talked about.
Perry shares a client story about a woman who was looking for answers. Her libido was pretty flat, and she kept thinking something was wrong with her. She wondered about what kind of medication she could take or what she could do to raise her libido. We're talking about that inner kind of sexual energy, that passionate energy.
She kept pathologizing herself and making herself wrong. One of the things that they discussed was her relationship, which had been in crisis for years.. By the time she came for help they were divorced. Understanding the dynamics in a relationship and how it may be affecting your sex life is a crucial step to shifting issues of libido.
We're not taught emotional intelligence. It is the education we need the most. We need to learn how to truly communicate. What do we do with emotions? What do we do when we have conflict? What do we do when we have stuff that we need to talk to our partner about and we are feeling really uncomfortable about it?
Emotional Intelligence is key a having a healthy libido.
Without communication, we stuff the anger and resentment and all of that affects your libido.
Libido is energy and when we're stuffing, we're repressing.
Perry shares practical steps to help you begin having the conversation about libido and sexual desire. Even if it's just a conversation for yourself in the beginning. Don’t settle. Use Perry’s information to help you understand how to better discuss libido and sex with your partner.
Sacrificing Your authenticity in relationships?
Did you know you may have codependency or over-caretaking tendencies?
You have to wake with yourself every day. When you can have your own back, it can transform your life. It’s an understanding of what’s best for you. When you learn to do this regularly all parts of your life get better. Relationships with others can improve. Physical issues and emotional problems will be reduced if not completely eliminated.
Including yourself is a daily practice that can change everything. Many issues like anxiety, depression, digestive disorders, migraines and more are related to our lack of inner knowing. When we aren’t in touch with ourselves, or when we don’t pay attention or over-ride what our body is trying to tell us, the message will always show up in other ways.
A first step can be journaling. No need to edit or be concerned with the narrative. Learn to write what you feel. If you learned to separate your feelings or over ride them, this can be hard at first.
A question to get things going is easy to remember. Use the acronym HALT. The next time you are feeling anxious, or depressed or find yourself craving food for comfort stop and ask yourself am I hungry, angry, lonely or sad?
You have permission to be brutally honest as you journal. No one else needs to know or see it. This is a great way to begin to pay attention to what’s truly happening. Meditation and mindfulness can also help you understand the cause of your physical and/or emotional pain. When we can get to the root of it, then we can begin to heal.
I encourage you to honor your relationship with yourself. It’s the best way to be your best self.
How we are raised makes a big impact on our ability to say no. How were you treated when you said no when you were a kid?
There is a developmental stage that children go through where they learn how to say no.
If we don’t learn to say no we are affected from a psychological and neuropsychological point of view.
Saying No is an important part of establishing boundaries for our health and well-being.
If we override our “no” signals in the body and our feelings, we will pay a price as well as compromising ourself.
Depression, anxiety, and numbing can become issues if we don’t learn the skill of saying NO.
Taking a small step in an area that is manageable but pushes you forward is crucial.
Yes, it will be uncomfortable but learn about the uncomfortable theory here.